前兩篇先講緊要幫我朋友攪明年結婚 d嘢﹐今日同朋友傾電話果陣﹐佢同我講佢又再分手啦~~ (OMG~ again?!)
唉~~ 我識大少咁耐就識佢咁耐。佢向短短唔夠八年中﹐ 都唔知分手左幾多次。我仲諗住佢今次仲見埋雙方家長﹐應該可以儲定「人情」﹐大力幫手佢個 wedding.. 點知~~ (sigh~~)
唉~其實佢地只拍拖短短兩個幾月就過結婚﹐我當然抱住觀望態度。
就係因為我同大少相處好短時間就立刻結婚﹐知道中間嘅相處過程會出現分爭﹐少一點忍讓﹐少一點接受﹐少一點諒解﹐都好難維持。
其實我都算好彩架啦~~ 因為大少其實都好忍讓我嘅大小姐脾氣﹐而我又會盡量去接受大少嘅「哩啡」(dirty)﹐大家又對婚姻有一定共識﹐所以先維持左咁耐。咁當然~~ 每對夫婦都總會有吵鬧嘅時候﹐但只要為對方諗多一點﹐以對方角度去諗﹐而唔係由自己去諗佢﹐關係可以長久少少。
但我呢個朋友﹐其實我都幾替佢擔心。如果佢心情好﹐佢會好識 tum 男方開心同忍讓。但有時佢太過執著﹐死牛一勉頸。例如凡事只講三次等 super 無聊規矩。又或者可能佢一心想盡快搬離屋企﹐所以拍拖無耐就立刻一齊住。
其實我唔反對人住埋一齊﹐因為可以更加清楚了解一個人嘅性格同生活習慣。兩個人一齊﹐總會需要時間去磨合差唔多嘅 channel。 Being on same page is very important for couples。
Anyway, 我幫佢做嘅 proposal 可以暫且停工。可以留返以後將來佢揾到個可以遷就到佢嘅人先再用啦~~~
Wow so shocking to hear that (the wedding is off). I agreed with you about relationship. When I was younger, I was probably more simple minded. Speaking of my own experience, I know it is not easy to be in a marriage and stay happy all the time. There is always the up and the down, from small day to day habit, to perspective in life. It does take a lot of love and patience to stay in a happy marriage.
回覆刪除咪係囉~~ 其實雙方都有錯。我
回覆刪除個男人在唔應該話 if you don't return call, then it's off.
個女人錯在凡事都 take it too serious. set too much rule for both.
但個男人都比哂70+個 MSM message 啦~ 個女人因為自己唔舒服就乜都 blame.
我只覺得兩個都唔夠成熟囉~~ Sigh~~~~~~
你介紹你個friend 俾我識啦, 我同佢處景勁似! 我都係講野剩係講3 次架咋haha!! 我同佢實攬住喊都似~ 喊完壓力無晒! hehee :p
回覆刪除貓﹐ WELCOME HERE!!! Long time no see too~~
回覆刪除其實唔需要乜都只講 3 次。 因為咁會困住自己。 人生苦短﹐ 最緊要自己開心呀﹗